Don’t wait for a mid-week investment text that guys love to send on Wednesdays to guarantee you’ll be available that weekend.See step 1 and find a fun activity, and then block out the fact that your phone is silent, especially since you still have plenty of texts from your girls.It’s easy enough to casually show up at the bar he just checked into because you were “planning on going anyway,” but he’ll realize soon enough that you’re more stalker than suitor.Stop expecting to hear from him at any moment (even if that one friend keeps telling you he’ll text).When you’re starting a new relationship, it’s easy to obsess 24/7 over everything your new dude is thinking.Whether it’s a kind of/almost relationship with a not-boyfriend, a hook up that could become regular, or you’re convinced you’ve met the love of your life, you’ll probably devote the same amount of time to overanalyzing everything.Her work has been featured in Teen Vogue, xo Jane, and Racked.
If you devoted the brain power you spend obsessing to something creative or interesting or different, you could learn a new skill! Seriously, you could accomplish something truly epic in the time you spend deconstructing a dude — so do it. That doesn’t mean you should blow his phone up, drunk text, or accidentally like his Instagram from 36 weeks ago.
but the sooner you do, the easier it is to understand that if he doesn’t get how cool you are now, he never will.
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It does, however, mean that you should feel free to shoot him a text if you’re tired of waiting to hear from him and have something you’ve been wanting to say. If you’re getting the vibe that this guy’s getting ready to ghost, it’s time to move on immediately.
It can be hard if you dread dating and actually found someone you like for once, but one of the worst things you can do is cut yourself off completely just because a prospect so much as looks your way.